It's not you it's me

We all know that line, we all know it's a lie. We do it to spare other people's feelings, not because it's in any way true. The people who say it are the ones who in power in the relationship. The ones who don't need to attach emotionally. The ones who get told that line care too much. We're the ones that do all the work, that apologize for every fight. Sometimes we can stop it before we get that line though. We decide to put our foot down. We take control. We decide that we're not going to take the emotional burden of a relationship, especially one we thought that they wanted to be in too. It takes immense courage and strength to put your foot down. But it still hurts. More than people could imagine.