Maybe you need to stop giving chances

Sometimes we give people many chances. And that's okay, if it's for the right reasons. But sometimes we give people so many chances that they use it as a way to walk all over us. We give them power over who we are and that gives them so much leverage. We let them hurt us, sometimes physically and sometimes not. They know our secrets, our skeletons in the closet. Sometimes we don't even know how much power that has over us, until we face it. When we put our foot down, refuse to let them do us any more harm. We realize we gave them a part of our soul, a part of our heart. And that scares all of us. That's why we often times do not put our foot down. We can't leave them with those pieces of our soul. Many of the time we know they won't tell anyone our secrets but we can't run that risk. We can't let those secrets get out to the world. So we let them walk all over us, until we have the courage to let them go.

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